Some men and women do not know they are the ones who bring an end to their marriage or relationship with the things they do.
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1. Living outside of what you can afford
A
wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best
thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”
Wives,
show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully
following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about
your finances.
Constantly
complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or
racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is
a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard
every day to provide for the family.
Yes,
you may not have enough to buy that designer shoes or bag you’ve had
your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the
fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You
hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the
street, your dumb co- worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in
between.
As soon as your husband walks through the
door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought
that’s crossed your mind. Can you imagine having to carry that burden?
Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being
hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your
pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from
marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help
you do that, it makes him unhappy.
3. Putting everything else first
When
your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career are in front of
your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant.
Imagine
having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would
that do to your self esteem? Put your husband first! Although it
sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d
be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in
marriage.
So many couples get divorced these days,
because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect. If you choose to
put him first, you will find a lot of joy
4. Withholding physical affection
Men
crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly
decline intimacy, it wears on them. S*x should not be used as a tool to
control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you
closer to one another and to God.
It
is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic
husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you
— and you only.
Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Don’t
waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak
plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things
up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with
“nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and
grow your marriage.